Break ups can be painful to deal with.
It’s a time of grieving, confusion and heartache. But there are some strategies that can help make things a little bit easier and help you move on from the breakup:
1. Allow yourself to grieve: It’s important to acknowledge your feelings and allow yourself to feel sad, angry or upset about the end of the relationship. Don’t try to suppress your emotions or rush through the grieving process. Take the time you need to mourn the loss of the relationship.
2. Cut off all contact: It’s tempting to keep in touch with your ex after a breakup, but it’s best to cut off all contact for a while. This means no texting, calling, or social media stalking. It will help you get over them faster and start the healing process.
3. Focus on self-care: Take care of yourself by eating healthy, exercising, and getting enough sleep. Do things that make you happy like spending time with friends, hobbies, or activities that you enjoy. Taking care of yourself will help you feel better and boost your self-confidence.
4. Don’t blame yourself: It’s easy to blame yourself for the breakup or think about what you could have done differently. But it’s important to remember that it takes two people to make a relationship work. Don’t beat yourself up or dwell on the past.
5. Seek out support: Don’t be afraid to lean on your friends and family during this time. Talking to someone can be a helpful way to process your feelings and get some perspective on the situation. Consider seeing a therapist or joining a support group for people going through a breakup.
Remember, healing from a breakup takes time. Be patient with yourself and don’t rush the process. With time, you will start to feel better and move on from the past.
©Abigail Oni
Africa’s leading Trauma Specialist.
I am open to speaking engagement and collaborations on Mental health and Trauma-informed care approaches. #mentalhealth
